Everyone knows that fashion is the ultimate platform of self expression, and has been so for thousands of years. Through the ages, fashion has demonstrated moral, sexual,and political views and opinions for many. Sexual attitudes, love, and desire has always been the ‘subliminal language’ of fashion and style. In this day and age , of synthetic fabrics, vibrant colors, and world wide sweeping style trends, can fashion effect your sex life? What is the ‘energy’ of your fashion choices? Now I know what you are thinking, a woman walking into a room with a vintage Halston, front deep- V-neck, men are going to look and react,thats obvious. We have always dressed up,using fashion as an expression of our inner self, but there are many of us that do not know how to effectively effect our energy,chi, and or prana concerning our fashion choices. One way we can start to affect our energetic lives concerning personal style, is creating style choices, based on body type and our personality. I go out and observe people often, many times looking at what they are wearing. What I notice often, is that many people will wear the hottest trends, trying their best to make that style or garment ‘there own’, but come across looking akward and pretentious.
You definitely don’t want to emulate such ill-conceived fashion catastrophes in your own wardrobe, and the good news is you don’t have to. Even if you’ve got a less-than-perfect bod, you can still look eminently fabulous if you simply make a realistic assessment of your particular body type, understanding your internal likes and dislikes, and then make choices that emphasize your appealing qualities.
The most important rule of looking good, no matter what your shape, is not to be a slave to fashion. “Just because an article of clothing is in style doesn’t mean that it belongs in your closet,” warn style mavens Jill Martin and Pierre A. Lehu in their book, “Fashion for Dummies.” Remember, haute couture designers live and work in a fantasy world in which all women are tall and have teeny waistlines but miraculously voluptuous busts and perfectly proportioned hips. Unless you’re a laboratory clone of 1960s movie goddess Sophia Loren, you probably don’t look like that.
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the average adult American woman is a shade under 5 foot 4 inches tall and weighs 164 pounds. Additionally, a 2005 North Carolina State University study of 6,000 American women found that only eight percent of them have the so-called hourglass shape for which most high-fashion attire is designed. Instead, about 46 percent of women have what researchers call a “rectangular” figure, with less than 9 inches difference between their waists and their curves. About 20 percent have a “spoon” figure, with hips at least 2 inches larger than their busts, and another 14 percent have an “inverted triangle” figure, with a bust that is 3 or more inches bigger than their hips.
Self-images can be woefully misleading, so the first thing you should do is take accurate measurements of your chest, waist and hips. That will help you determine which body type you are. Additionally, measure your inseam, sleeve length, arms and thighs. Those numbers will help you to evaluate whether a particular garment or designer will suit you.
Rectangular: You want to call attention to your top to divert eyes from your straight-up-and-down proportions. A little padding in your shoulders will do wonders, as long as you don’t go overboard. If you have reasonably well-toned arms, go for sleeveless tops with a high neckline. Dresses that wrap or flow (meaning, they don’t cinch) through the waistline are another good choice. When you wear slacks, go with straight or gently-flared hems. If you’re slender, defining your waist with an artful belt can help, too.
Spoon: Wear flared slacks, jeans and skirts. That will help to balance the width of your hips. Tunic tops and jackets emphasize your torso rather than your bottom half. Another trick is to wear an off-the-shoulder top that emphasizes one or both shoulders.
Inverted Triangle: If you have broad shoulders or a particularly curvy bosom, you fall into this body shape category. First of all, if curves are your issue, spend some time picking out a bra that fits you, so that it doesn’t further exaggerate your silhouette. Tops and dresses that flow through the waist are also good for evening out your proportions. Flared pants and A-line skirts will create the illusion of bodily balance, too.
Hourglass: Even though you’re wonderfully symmetrical and you can pull off a wide variety of looks, you still need to pick clothes that at least subtly flatter your attributes. For example, stay away from baggy clothes that obscure your shape. Ditto for stiff fabrics and high necklines. You’ll look your best in tailored, fitted clothes with soft fabrics, low to medium necklines, and gently-flared slacks and skirts.
Now that we understand your body type, and what should look great on you, lets get to the spiritual issues of fashion, and how to effect your energy positively.
In today’s styles, there are a wealth of fabrics, colors, and silhouettes to choose from. To become a “trend setter” one has to make fashion choices that not only feel good physically and visually, but spiritually as well. For example, silk is a very sensuous fabric that has an exotic history in the world of fashion. I have interviewed many people over the years concerning their personal style, and silk is a favorite for many, concerning intimates,tops, and dresses. Silk has a light weight physical nature, but feels excruciatingly delicious next to the skin. Going out on the town for cocktails, choose a short silk dress, with wonderful draped qualities around the neck and shoulders. Make sure that the color exudes the type of energy you want to portray. Red and mauve for passion,dark colors such as a sensual eggplant for a more “notice me-but don’t notice me” energy. Even when you walk across the room, notice how this silk dress hugs your hips, brushing delicately against your skin. Notice how this effects your energy, your thoughts, what’s going on inside your head as you experience the touch of this fabric on your body. Most of all, are you portraying this “sensual battle” to others as you walk across the room? This is what I mean when speaking about how fashion choices can effect your energy, the ‘inner you’. While walking across the room, all eyes gracing across your body, there are spiritual changes, thoughts, and images that are going on right at that moment in your mind. We all need to understand this battle,molding it perfectly, to get the reaction we want from ourselves and others. Everyone knows that you don’t wear a business suit , when going out with your significant other,but lets learn to peel back the layers of “fabric and color sensuality”. Ladies, colors and fabrication can make a striking presence in a man’s mind, even days after your initial meeting. Every wonder why some of the worlds most desirable intimates are made from either silk or satin? Silk and satin are fabrics that humans love to touch, even on a sub conscious level, and men have always considered these fabrics the epitome of sex and desire. Understanding this one fact can have you make more articulate wardrobe decisions,especially when dealing with direct and indirect intimacy in the bedroom or boardroom. A delicate silk blouse under a well tailored suit is just as powerful, as a draped silk dress in a cozy lounge,sipping apple martinis. Same fabrications, different environments, silk used to portray control and power in BOTH situations, even though that power is on different ends of the spectrum concerning human interaction. Learning to understand the intricate ‘spiritual nature’ of fabrications,colors, style silhouettes, and how they affect your 5 senses may sound like a bunch of ‘hocus-pocus’, but this intimate knowledge of self does work. In the world of fashion, one needs an “edge,an understanding of what makes you look and feel great, but it get much deeper. Why does these selected styles make you feel a certain way? How can you capitalize on these style choices even further. Don’t be afraid to dissect your own style choices down to their most common denominators. Thats were you will find your own personal “holy grail of style, a ‘style aesthetic’ that is unique only to you. That is when you will become not just a trend-setter, but a trend-motivator,reaching the rarefied realm of fashion muse, inspiring all that see you.